Caregivers are a blessing to many people. It can be a tough job but it is carried out with care and love. Caregivers don’t usually stop and take proper care of themselves, but they are better able to care for someone else when they do. Caregivers deal with more than the physical strain of caring for a loved one. There is often mental and emotional strain also. Caregivers may feel isolated and lonely, tired or even guilty for not doing more. There are limits to everything and a caregiver needs to realize they can’t do it all on their own, they need help.

A person who suddenly finds themselves in the caregiver role may not know where to begin. Where do I find resources and support? Where can I find respite care? Getting information is one of the best ways a caregiver can help themselves. The Internet can be a great source of information, but also know that you cannot believe everything you read online. Be sure to research credible studies of your loved one’s illness, treatment options and related resources. For example, someone wanting information on leukemia can find related information on the website for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. Many times these national and local organizations can offer information on services, support and/or assistance to that specific medical condition. Support groups are another way to find help. Support groups, whether a general caregivers support group or a specific illness-related support group, are a great place to find support from people who know what you are going through. These groups can offer ideas and solutions to problems you may be facing. Other resources can include programs offered through your local Area Agency on Aging or through community based programs, such as Meals on Wheels.

What every caregiver should know

Caregivers give all they have out of love. Taking care of yourself, while taking care of a loved one, is very important. It allows you to provide better care and reduces your chances of becoming exhausted or ill. By taking care of yourself, you may also help reduce the anxiety that often comes with caregiving responsibilities.

Some ways to cope with stress and anxiety include:

- Writing in a journal: allows you to express anger, fear and frustration

- Respite Care or private duty home health aides: allows you time away from caregiving to visit a friend, the library, a coffee house, go to church or just spend some time alone

- Doing yoga

- Reading

- Knitting

- Sewing

If a caregiver takes care of themselves by eating right, resting and utilizing community resources such as private duty home health aides or respite care, they will have the strength to continue their journey through this time in their life and the time they spend caring for their loved one will be more rewarding.