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Accepting ourselves the way we are can be difficult but not impossible

I said last week the vast majority of us go around wearing a mask. We wear it at home, work and the store. We canít go anywhere without our mask.

For some of us we wear our mask so often we wouldnít recognize ourselves without it on. We wouldnít know how to live if we left it off. We think if we allow people to see ourselves for who we really are, they wonít like us and accept us.

Maybe the problem really isnít other people liking us. Maybe the trouble is we donít accept ourselves.

There is a saying: ďGod doesnít make junk.Ē However, some of us feel like God made a mistake when he made us. We are not pretty enough or smart enough. We donít have the right people around; we donít have anything to offer.

We buy in to the lie that we have to be a size zero. We have to have a formal education. We have to look and act the part. When we donít measure up, we feel unworthy and inferior to people around us.

We tell kids to not give in to peer pressure, but as we get older, we often ignore that advice and give in to peer pressure ourselves. As we grow up, peer pressure looks different than when we were kids.

As a kid we felt pressured to look a certain way, act cool to fit in with ďthe cool kidsĒ and wear the right kind of clothes. Now we give in to peer pressure by driving a nice car, living in a big house and buying toys that we canít really afford, but we do it anyway because we think it makes us look good.

Most of us know peer pressure is a joke; however, we still give in because we want other people to accept us so badly. We are more than willing to do anything to be accepted by whom we deem to be the right people.

When I was in my early 20s, I wasnít accepting of my cerebral palsy. I looked around, and I saw everyone else with good jobs, dating, going to college and getting together with friends, and I didnít have any of that.

I had no idea what to do about my situation. I couldnít drive, so I asked my parents to take me to a cafe. I felt like this would be my best chance to make friends, and I did make new friends.

Even though my new friends accepted me, I didnít. I knew they loved me and were willing to take their time with me and listen. They showed me nothing but love, and what it really did to me was allow me to figure for myself that I needed to accept myself the way God made me.

Accepting me just the way I am didnít come easy for me; it was a long hard road. As I gained more and more friends, I began to realize I didnít need to put on a show for them. They loved me and accepted me for who I am.

As we talked, I also realized if they can accept me for the way God made me, I should to. I began to pray and recall everything I had going for me, thanking God I could walk, talk and feed myself, that I had family and friends that loved me. By that time I began to drive, so I thanked God for that as well. Over the course of time I started to accept myself the way God made me.

Accepting ourselves the way we are can be difficult but not impossible. We all have some good qualities within us. Some of us might have to dig a little deeper than others, but that only means we have to keep on digging.

Think of the good qualities God has bestowed on you. What talents have you been given? What kind of person are you?

God made us a specific way for a reason. He knows what he is doing. The Bible says we are his handiwork (Ephesians 2:10).

If need be, ask a friend what you have going for you. What do they see in you? Write it down if you need to and look at the list daily. This will keep it fresh in your mind and will help break down that wall that keeps you from accepting yourself.

Accepting ourselves for who God made us to be is a long road, but if we keep our best qualities in front of us, we will slowly get there. Keep on praying and asking God for help, and he will help you.

Published: November 22, 2016
New Article ID: 2016711219979